I have often thought how much simpler it would be if I could remove myself from the conversation and invite those already married to unbelievers do the talking to singles who are desperately trying to find a loophole that would allow them to marry someone who does not share their faith.
That way, I could skip all the Bible passages that urge singles only to “marry in the Lord” (1 Corinthians ) and not “be unequally yoked” (2 Corinthians ) and the Old Testament proscriptions against marrying the foreigner, a worshiper of a god other than the God of Israel (see Numbers 12 where Moses marries a woman of another race but the same faith).
Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.
There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.
If only I could pair those sadder and wiser women—and men—who have found themselves in unequal marriages (either by their own foolishness or due to one person finding Christ after the marriage had already occurred) with the blithely optimistic singles who are convinced that their passion and commitment will overcome all obstacles.
Many respondents applied their understanding of the Bible – which is supported by experience of dating and marriage with subsequent divorce with non-Christians – to say they would never marry a non-Christian.
Instead, variants of the serpent's question to Eve—“Did God really say?Don’t think you will change that person later on in life because that rarely happens and only makes things worse. He loves you and does not want you to be one flesh with a person that won’t accept his son. An ungodly husband or an ungodly wife cannot do God’s will in marriage. 1 Corinthians But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. I want to also remind you this, don’t date someone just because they go to church because many people who say they’re Christians are not truly Christians. Most are well intended and contain a nugget of truth. Dating is hard enough without sifting through all this erroneous information, so let's debunk some myths.There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.